mum died last night

[bigj2552]

my mum passed away in here sleep last night - i thought i woyld have got another yr or two with her copd
dad phoned me at 9am today -

THIS IS GONNA BE REAL HARD :frown::frown::frown::frown::frown::frown::frown::frown:

[Mattie]

Really sorry to hear the sad news, hope the family is well, I know how hard it is to loose a parent

[mrs maggot]

GigJ console yourself in the time to come, that she died in her sleep - the perfect end to a life, at peace with the world, be there for your dad and your family, but take time to grieve yourself xxx

[printeire]

Sorry for your loss. Remember the good times - I found that helped when I lost mum

[GoldRapt]

Sorry for your loss

[bigj2552]

thank you so much all of you - doc put me back on strong antidepressants today as i,m not doing to well at all..
i,m sorry to come onto a forum with such news but i live myself and it helps a bit

and thought i might talk here - so sorry if i offend or upset anyone - i dont mean to ;-(

my dads in a "i need to be alone" stage which dont help either.....
she had end stage COPD...oxygen 24/7 and was getting to the very weak to walk stage
i knew she was bad, but thought we could get another yr with her - her mind was sharp as...
i did manage to take her out last sunday when i shut the ebay store for the day - that made her happy - and i had made up my mind to take every sunday off after that to take her somewhere every sunday...i never got the dam chance ;-(...well once !

i was going to buy her a wheel chair on thursday coming so i could take her round the shops again as well.....

the thing thats eating me up inside is - i was meant to go up and see her monday, but i was to dam busy with orders on ebay, and couldn't get out the office for work.

tuesday was the same - i had orders to do couldnt get up - i phone her Tuesday night and arrange to go somewhere today ( wed )
well.....i never got the chance.....
46 yr old and it still hurts like hell :frown:

[Justin]

So sorry to hear about your loss Jonathon. my thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

If there's anything we can do to help please do let us know, if you need help getting orders out, anything.

I know how busy you are right now and we'll catch up over that when you can find a chance.

Best wishes for now

[socialgiraffe]

Sorry for you loss Jonathon, in time I trust the hurt of your loss will reduce.

I am sure many of us have lost someone in the past and have all said similar things to you, the old "what if" scenario or "I was just too busy". Please please please do not think like this but remember the good times you had and all those wonderful memories of great days out or holidays that I am sure you had. Without knowing you or your mother I can be confident in saying that I am sure that is how your mum would like you to remember her.

I echo Justins comments about if there is anything you need me or anyone else on here to do I am sure I/they will be able to.

[viccar]

So sorry for your loss Johathon, its such a sad time, dont let the what ifs get to you, your mum would have known how much you loved her, and one day it wil be a comfort to you to know that she went in her sleep,

but it will take time,

cry all you want, shout all you want, let all the feeling out now, its better that way in the long run, and perfectly normal.

((((hugs))))

[Renniwano]

So sorry to hear the news hun.. but I agree that you need to try not to dwell on the fact you were busy with work.. all the good times and good memories will far outweigh those moments.

Don't apologise either for mentioning it on here.. I am sure I speak for all of us that sometimes it's easier to get it all out to people who aren't immediately involved.. and we are all here to lend an ear business wise or other.. and that is the great thing about all of the guys on this forum.

Take some time out if need be and remember you need some time to deal with this too.. and your dad will probably be trying to cope with it all because you may be 46 but you are still his child and he probably is trying to be strong for you..

Losing anyone is hard.. but losing the person closest to you harder still..

Time IS a great healer.. but it takes exactly that

Huge hugs hun.. and thoughts are with you and your family x